Wasting time

Don't you just hat when you invest your time in someone, in a relationship or in a friendship and sometimes that investment is wasted. It's wasted because the person you invested your time just doesn't care about you the same way you care about them.

I know people have different ways of showing that they care but there are some things that you can't ignore. You can't ignore that you're the only one making an effort in the relationship, that you're the only one trying to keep things working. 

Relationships are made of two (or more) people and the effort has to come from all sides. Not just from one. And sometimes is hard to get to this conclusion. It's hard to like someone and find out that that person doesn't like you enough to make the effort. But that's life. That's how things work. And it's better if you find this out sooner rather than later. It's better because, even though you're going to suffer and even though you're going to think the problem it's in you, you didn't waste any more time in that person. It's better that's just a few months rather than years. And, trust me, I know how much it hurts and how much it makes you doubt yourself. But in the end the problem is not you. It's not you because if you gave everything you could, if you made everything you could have done, there's no way you could be the problem. 

This works out for romantic relationships or friendships. And I know it works because it happened me with both. But in the end it just showed me that life is not easy and never goes the way you want it to go. You just have to adapt yourself to it and keep living.